Baston woman who owns Spalding preschool is urging other businesses to support Miscarriage Assocation's pledge
A couple are appealing for more businesses to sign up to a pledge to give working parents time off to recover from the trauma of a miscarriage.
Stephanie and Richard Barrett are sharing their story of losing a child in order to encourage more couples to break the taboo of miscarriages and speak about their loss.
Sadly Stephanie had to go through the difficult experience of labour knowing that her child had died, but did not feel that there was enough support available until she discovered the Miscarriage Association.
Mother-of-two Stephanie is now giving something back to the association by raising money by completing the virtual London Marathon, along with signing the Pregnancy Loss Pledge.
She owns Spalding’s BeBright Preschool with Laura Spillett, and has committed to ensure that staff experiencing pregnancy loss get the support and time off they need.
Stephanie, who did not feel able to take time off after her own miscarriage in 2015, said: “Having time off would make such a big difference to men and women should they require it.
“At the time I was very much ‘get on with it’. It was only a couple of years down the line, we started talking about it and reliving experiences.
“I should have taken more time off to think and breathe and comprehend what happened.
“Not just losing the baby but also what happened to your body.”
Four weeks after discovering she was pregnant in 2015, Stephanie began to feel that something wasn’t right.
When she began to bleed, she went to have a scan and was told that they did not think the pregnancy was viable, but was asked to leave it for two weeks.
Sadly when she miscarried further, Stephanie had to be admitted into hospital and had to go through labour in a ward before being moved into a side room.
Stephanie, who lives in Baston, said: “It was very upsetting to go through labour and have that negative from start to finish. There was no joy to come out of it at all.
“I did not feel that there was the support in place through the NHS as they are so stretched and I had to find my own support. It was a lonely experience.”
Hypnotherapy helped Stephanie, but so did speaking with family and friends - which she hopes other couples will do.
She said: “It is so important that they talk to people about what they are going through. It is something everyone needs to talk about.”
Stephanie went over to Wales recently to run the Virtual London Marathon with friend Joscelyn Burton.
She said: “It was a lovely day. We had a rainbow follow us for six or seven miles and we thought that as a sign.”
BeBright Preschool was transformed into a vintage tea room to give families time to talk.
Over £1,000 was raised for this fantastic charity.
For more information on the support available please go to: www.miscarriageassociation.org.uk